Illustrate the differences between the three styles of communication by using role-play and modeling of employment situations. For example, respond to the following situations assertively, aggressively, and nonassertively:
Here are some general suggestions for assertive communication taken from Bolding & Wehmeyer (1999):
Constantly evaluate the risks and benefits of acting in an assertive manner. It is important for people to understand that being assertive is not always the best course of action and that, sometimes, due to the reaction of others around you, it is better to choose a nonassertive style of communicating. Some things to consider before deciding on being aggressive are:
Sometimes it is important to pick you battles and decide when you will be assertive.
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